Motivate Your People With Your Drawerful of $100 Bills

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The office holiday party was a huge success. Was it just a way to thank your workers for a job well done this past year? Or do you expect it to have the lasting power to motivate your workers for the next twelve months?

I’m not trying to be a scrooge or put a damper on the holiday spirit. Rather I’m inquiring how do you obtain consistent, high performance from the people you manage, coach, lead, or supervise? So I asked the experts—not the management or academic gurus—but the people who lead, supervise, or coach on a daily basis. Here’s what was said:

“It’s the small things on a day by day basis that bring down performance–and-it’s the small things every day that can raise performance. One or two large events a year probably won’t do it. They may be fun….but if morale is down, I bet you’ll find a bunch of people griping about the other stuff that goes on in the workplace.”

Drawerful of $100 bills

A supervisor’s sincere recognition of a job well done will usually do more for getting people to do their best work than a holiday party or picnic. Respect, acknowledgment and genuine praise cost you nothing. But they can pay off substantially in terms of employee commitment and discretionary effort—the difference between what employees must do to keep their jobs and what they are fully capable of contributing.

As a consultant working, for the past twenty five years in many kinds of industries and in companies that had 10 people to companies that had 10,000+, here’s what I’ve observed of “good” managers—-those who consistently get top performance from their team, staff, or project group. Here is a sampling of their $100 bills:

1. Providing more appreciative feedback.
The good stuff should come a lot more often than the bad stuff! Giving direct, honest feedback about their contributions on a regular basis and emphasizing the consequences of what they have done.
Example: “I noticed you put in a lot of extra work to finish your part of this project. As a result, we were able to finish ahead of schedule and the main office was really impressed. Thank you for going the extra mile.”

2. Letting others know of staff or team’s contributions.
This is known as third party acknowledgment or praise. In the example below, praise directly from the director would be even more motivating.
Example: “I told the director what a great job you did on the PC installation project. She asked me to let you know how much that helped us out.”

3. Taking a sincere interest in what people do well.
Wanting to understand someone’s success is one of the highest forms of recognition and praise.
Example: Sit down with an achiever and asking how she accomplished the praise-worthy task. Examine the nuts and bolts together.

Even when it’s difficult to find something to praise, it’s worth searching. When you start noticing what people do right, they tend to do more of it. When you focus on the negative you may gain compliance (when you’re around, at least) but you breed hostility and undermine morale.

Therefore, a staff or team that has received appropriate praise will tend to be more involved, more creative and more willing to achieve the team’s or department’s goals. In the end, isn’t that what you want as manager or leader?

Management Success Tip:

People need to feel respected and appreciated on a day-to-day basis for what they contribute to the group or organization. Employee recognition and appreciation do not have to be in the form of awards or even bonuses. A manager doing simple things can gain a lot – a more motivated worker and team. Also see Employee Motivation: One Size Doesn’t Fit All.

Do you want to develop your Management Smarts?

Tips For Starting a New Job

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new jobStarting a new role can be both exciting and stressful.

It’s moving from the familiar to the unfamiliar; from knowing the main players to determining who they are; from feeling very positive about your abilities to feeling somewhat insecure. But that’s true of every new situation.

So what do you do to regain your confidence and competence?

1. Clarify expectations immediately.
Make sure you understand from your first day why you were hired and what re your goals are for the first 6–12 months. This can help with your direction in the weeks to come. Also spend plenty of time getting to know your new boss, your new teammates and your new culture. This is the time to make friends not enemies.

2. Don’t be the Lone Ranger.
It’s not weak to ask for help. If you don’t know how or where to find the information you need, you’ll waste your time if you search for it yourself. Ask your boss or colleagues for help when you need it.

3. Realize you will be stressed at times – don’t let it bring you down.
Many people feel overwhelmed when they start with a new company. Everything is dramatically different, which can leave you feeling at times not in control and not your usual competent self. That’s normal in the beginning. However it’s important you manage the stress before it manages you.

4. Avoid making comparisons between your new and old company.
Your new team doesn’t want to hear “At my old job, we used to…” Focus on what is important now and what you need to do now, not what or how you did something in the past.

5. Have a smile on your face and goodness in your heart.
If someone on your new team does not respond well to you, don’t take it personally – at least in the beginning. Remember, you might be in a role that someone else used to have, and that person might have been a friend of this team member. It will take time to establish trust and confidence in you so put your energy in being effective and productive in your role.

Career Success Tip:

Although your boss may not expect you to create full value for the company during your first few months, be sure to have a few successes. That will help you establish credibility with her and her boss. You want them to feel they made the right decision. Also see Five Career Challenges You May Face.

Do you want to develop Career Smarts?

C is for Courage

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We continue describing effective presentation skills by the alphabet.

C is for

Courage. It takes a certain amount of courage just to get up and speak. It takes even more to be authentic, or to take a risk in front of your peers. Tap in to your courage like the cowardly lion in the Wizard of Oz. if you have something to say, you have the power, and the courage to speak up.

Charisma. Charisma is “unearned charm that makes you attractive to others.” If you–like most of us–don’t have it naturally, compensate with real enthusiasm, passion for your subject matter, and interest in people. Go out of your way to listen well and make genuine connections with people. Don’t forget focused eye contact to charm and attract your audience. Think Bill Clinton.

Confidence. How you walk into a room or take the stage already says volumes about you. Stand tall but with ease. Breathe. Smile. Gesture when you speak. Learn how to project your voice and speak with rhythm and varied vocal inflections. Eliminate hesitancy and questions in your vocal sounds. Act as if you were supremely confident and tell yourself you are.

Curious. Nothing is worse than having a presenter ask a question they clearly don’t care about the answer to. Plan to learn something new in each presentation you give. Engage with your audience with a sense of curiosity. Share the knowledge you have and build an even deeper knowledge by adding what the audience knows.

How have you embodied these attributes to become a more effective presenter? What other words that describe effective presenters start with the letter C? Would love to hear from you!

7 Key Activities for a Strategic Planning Facilitator

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As the strategy leader, you have seven activities to which I recommend you pay close attention to build a strong strategy that has full buy-in and commitment.

Gain your team’s commitment and buy-in to the process

If your leadership team members are like most with whom I have worked, they are stretched for resources and have more on their plate than they can likely accomplish with the time they have. Therefore, for many of them, the prospects of taking valuable time and resources to develop a plan that will come up with more to add to their already over-loaded plates is NOT a welcomed idea.

So how do you gain their commitment to planning and their buy-in to a planning process such as The Drivers Model? With a management briefing, you will have your team identify the most critical issues facing the organization; then they will make adjustments to the planning process as needed to ensure that the process addresses those issues. The management briefing increases commitment to planning by providing your team with a road map that shows how what is important to them will be covered during the strategic planning sessions.

Ensure All Voices Are Heard

The fundamental secret of facilitation indicates that you can increase buy-in and commitment by having those impacted by the plan involved in the creation of it. However, everyone in your organization will be impacted by the strategic plan. Does that mean everyone should be at the table creating the plan?

No, of course not. Nor is it necessary. Involvement does not necessitate being at the table. There are several ways to provide people the opportunity for involvement in the plan as described in the table that follows.

  • For some, just giving them a chance for input through a survey or a suggestion box will be adequate.
  • For others, focus groups, one-on-one interviews or other methods for gaining in-depth input may be more appropriate.
  • And for others, their responsibilities, influence, expertise, or perspectives are so important that it will make sense to have them seated around the table.

One of your important roles is to determine who should be at the table and to put in place other avenues to ensure all voices are given the opportunity to be heard. Providing the opportunity for input is essential to a facilitative approach and to gaining the level of buy-in needed for successful implementation across the organization.

Ensure key information is brought into the room

You may have been in the room when a team has made a decision based on the best information available, only to discover that if they had been aware of other information that had not been brought into the room, they would have likely have made a different decision. Sound familiar? Well, part of your role is to ensure that this doesn’t happen with your planning activity.

My company’s work in the area of consensus building has shown that one of the primary reasons people disagree is due to a lack of shared information. Many disagreements can be resolved, and even prevented, by making sure all parties have the same information.

With the Drivers Model, the briefing book serves the purpose of ensuring all your team members start with a common set of information

Get your ideas on the table without overpowering the group

As indicated earlier, it is important that all voices be heard, and that includes yours. Unfortunately, if you are like most leaders, your voice comes with considerable baggage. When the boss speaks, people listen. And they listen differently from when other people speak.

Sure, there will likely be some people in the room who treat your voice like every other voice in the room. Whether the idea comes from you or a first-year manager, these people will state their agreement or disagreement with the idea in the exact same way, regardless of the source. Unfortunately, this probably isn’t the case for most of the people at the table. When you speak, most may be quick to respond when they agree, and very, very slow to respond when they disagree – so slow, in fact, that sometimes they may never get around to it!

As a result of the lack of challenge many leaders experience within their own walls, the views of the leader can easily overpower the group. And even when someone dares to challenge with a question, some leaders, often without knowing it, respond with statements that belittle the questioner or not-so-subtly communicate that challenging the boss is not welcome.

Ensure that the plan components meet the quality checks

With the Drivers Model each component is dependent upon the components that came before it. So, for example, if you do a poor job of defining your mission and vision, your goals and objectives will reflect this. Likewise, if your goals and objectives are misaligned, your critical success factors and barriers will also be off. And if your critical success factors and barriers are inadequate, your strategies and action plans will be inadequate as well. Therefore it is essential that you do a quality job every step of the way through the planning process.

The Drivers Model is designed to help you do this. From vision and mission through to strategies and action plans, the Drivers Model provides a specific quality check for each component of the strategic plan. These quality checks help ensure that your plan is comprehensive, robust, inspiring, and implementable. As the leader, it is your role to ensure that each component of the plan passes its quality check. Below I have summarized one or two key elements from the quality check list for each of the components of the plan.

Management Briefing
  • Have the critical issues that the plan should address been identified?
  • Has a planning process for addressing the issue been accepted?
Briefing Book Review and SWOT
  • Has the planning team reviewed the briefing book to identify key observations and potential strategies?
  • Does each strength, weakness, opportunity and threat identify both the attribute and the impact?
Positioning Statements
  • Have positioning statements been created for the key external trends impacting future success?
  • Have each of the positioning statements been formatted to identify both the belief and the action taken by the belief, such as “we believe…therefore we must…”?
Mission
  • Does the mission statement broadly describe what you do, for whom you do it, and the benefit?
  • Does the mission statement indicate the industry or market that the organization serves?
Vision
  • Does the vision represent the preferred future of the organization?
  • Does the vision simply represent a logical extension of today or are out-of-the-box results represented?
Goals
  • As a group, do the goals represent all of the key areas of strategic focus for the organization?
  • If the organization achieves these goals, and only these goals, will the organization most likely have fulfilled its mission?
Objectives
  • Are the objectives SMART: specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, time-bound?
  • If all of the objectives are achieved, and only these objectives, will the goal be accomplished for the time period?
Guiding Principles
  • Do the guiding principles identify all the key values for the organization?
  • Are the principles worded in such a way as to indicate both the value and the expected behaviors (e.g., “We believe … Therefore we will …”)?
Critical Success Factors
  • Have the most critical conditions that must be created and the major barriers impacting success been identified?
  • Are the CSFs stated as nouns with conditions (e.g., “effective dealer network”) and not as verbs (e.g., “develop”)?
Barriers
  • Are the barriers phrased in such a way as to encourage strategies for overcoming them?
  • Do you have at least two and no more than seven barriers per goal?
Strategies
  • Are the strategies phrased as activities to be accomplished and NOT results to be achieved?
  • If the strategies are implemented is it highly likely that the objectives will be achieved?
Action Plans
  • Have all the key deliverables been identified? If the deliverables are done, will the strategy be completed?
  • Have all the important actions been identified? Is each action worded so that it is clear what needs to be accomplished? If all the actions are completed, will all the deliverables be created?

Follow through and hold people accountable

If you have been involved in strategic planning processes, you know that far too often it is a game in which considerable energy is placed in developing a plan that is then put on the executive’s shelf, only to be looked at when it is time to do strategic planning once again.

The Drivers Model strives to end this game. Assemble a detailed process for aligning the organization and ensuring monthly check-ins, quarterly reviews and an annual update to the strategic plan. This structured monitoring process is intended to help ensure that the plan moves from paper to implementation.

Decide if an outside facilitator would be helpful

With an activity as critical as strategic planning, it is essential that the effort be facilitated by someone who is skilled in facilitation but also has considerable experience guiding a team through strategy. Some organizations have internal resources with both the facilitation and the strategy expertise. But others choose to bring in outside professional facilitators with years of training, experience and proven results.

When should you bring in an outside facilitator? It is your role as the leader to make this call.

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Michael Wilkinson is the CEO and Managing Director of Leadership Strategies, Inc., “The Facilitation Company” and author of Amazon best-seller “The Secrets of Facilitation”, “The Secrets to Masterful Meetings”, and the brand new “The Executive Guide to Facilitating Strategy.” Leadership Strategies is a global leader in facilitation services, providing companies with dynamic professional facilitators who lead executive teams and task forces in areas like strategic planning, issue resolution, process improvement and others. They are also a leading provider of facilitation training in the United States.

Staffing The Development Office

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The Senior Development Person functions in four broad areas:
•  Long- and Short-Term Planning
       Working with Leadership
•  Operational Planning and Analysis
       Working with Leadership, Administration and Staff to identify
       and select the (marketing, public relations and development)
       programs that will best address established goals and
       objectives.
•  Coordinating Development Activities with those of the other depts.
•  Program Supervision
       Working with Staff and/or vendors to plan and oversee Events and Mass Mailings —
       Solicitations and other Communications, and Coordinate the activities of the
       Volunteer Leadership.

The Operational Development Person functions in four specific areas:
•  Long- and Short-Term Planning
       Working with the senior development person
•  Operational Planning and Analysis
       Working with Leadership, Administration and senior development person to identify and
       select the (marketing, public relations and development) programs that will best address
       goals and objectives.
•  Program Planning
       Working with Volunteers and vendors to plan Events and Mass Mailings
•  Program Implementation
       Working with Volunteers and vendors to implement specific relationship-building and
       fundraising activities, and Coordinate the Activities of the Volunteer Leadership

The Development Support Person functions in two general areas:
•  Data Entry
       Information on gifts, donors and prospects
•  Communications
       Contact with donors, prospects, volunteers and vendors to obtain/confirm information,
       and facilitating the communications of the operational development person with donors,
       prospects, volunteers and vendors.

(This piece has been on my hard drive for so long, I don’t remember if I wrote it or if someone else did, but it’s information worth having, and I’ll be happy to give recognition to its author if I’m informed it wasn’t me !!)

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Have a comment or a question about starting, evaluating or expanding your fundraising program? Contact me at Hank@Major-Capital-Giving.com With over 30 years of counseling in major gifts, capital campaigns, bequest programs and the planning studies to precede these three, I’ll be pleased to answer your questions.

How to bring about nationwide change? – a dilemma

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Ingrid is a director on the board of a small listed company. The Chairman is an ‘industry veteran’ and, whilst greatly respected for his experience and knowledge is also followed by a reputation for drinking more alcohol than he can safely handle. For the past two years all has gone well and Ingrid has grown to like and admire her Chairman.

The company is now raising capital for a contentious project and, at a recent investment roadshow, the Chairman had to be forcefully removed from the room by the company’s broker because he was slurring his speech and talking nonsense. The broker is very angry that he has been made to look bad in front of his potential investors.

The board called a meeting without the Chairman at which the directors resolved to ask the Chairman to account for his behaviour and undertake either resign or cease drinking. However, when the audit committee Chair spoke with the Chairman he explained that he had been unwell and one small glass of wine which reacted with his medication to cause the incident. The Chairman refused to resign or to make any commitment to curb his drinking.

The remaining board members have, again, met without the Chairman present. They are unable to agree on how to proceed. Some want to express a vote of no confidence and seek shareholder support for removing the Chairman; others take a more lenient stance.

What should Ingrid do?

Many readers of this blog will be familiar with my newsletter The Director’s Dilemma. This newsletter features a real life case study with expert responses containing advice for the protagonist. Many readers of this blog are practicing experts and have valuable advice to offer so, for the first time, we are posting an unpublished case study and inviting YOU to respond.

If you would like to publish your advice on this topic in a global company directors’ newsletter please respond to the dilemma above with approximately 250 words of advice for Graham. Back issues of the newsletter are available at http://www.mclellan.com.au/newsletter.html where you can check out the format and quality.

The newsletters will be compiled into a book. If your advice relates to a legal jurisdiction, the readers will be sophisticated enough to extract the underlying principles and seek detailed legal advice in their own jurisdiction. The first volume of newsletters is published and available at http://www.amazon.com/Dilemmas-Practical-Studies-Company-Directors/dp/1449921965/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321912637&sr=8-1

What would you advise?

Julie Garland-McLellan has been internationally acclaimed as a leading expert on board governance. See her website atwww.mclellan.com.au or visit her author page athttp://www.amazon.com/Julie-Garland-McLellan/e/B003A3KPUO

Twitter Underprepared for Censorship Backlash

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Big announcements require major crisis prevention planning

Twitter on Thursday announced that it is now able to block tweets that run afoul of certain countries’ restrictions on speech, but that has prompted backlash from users who fear the micro-blogging service will honor takedown requests from repressive regimes.

In explaining the move, Twitter mentioned France and Germany, which ban pro-Nazi speech. But many users questioned how this might play out in the Middle East, for example, where social networks like Twitter and Facebook played a key role as organizational tools during last year’s Arab Spring uprisings.

As a result, the term #TwitterCensored is now a trending topic in the United Arab Emirates. Many angry users have also pledged not to use Twitter on Saturday, Jan. 28 in protest of the move, much like the anti-SOPA/PIPA Internet blackouts here in the United States.

We were as shocked as anyone to hear the news contained in this quote, from a PC Magazine article by Chloe Albanesius. Twitter, which grew from techie tool to worldwide phenomenon on the back of natural disasters and revolts against oppression, appears to be acting against the very freedom which made it a social media icon.

What was even more surprising to us as crisis management professionals was that Twitter seemed seriously underprepared for the highly predictable backlash, issuing a cryptic statement explaining that if “we receive a valid and properly scoped request from an authorized entity, it may be necessary to reactively withhold access to certain content in a particular country from time to time.” While you may be able to puzzle through that one, to the layperson it may as well be Greek, and that makes Twitter look shady. You absolutely have to use the language of the people, or your words will be chalked up as deception.

Belatedly, the folks at Twitter published this blog post, which is actually solid, and very much along the lines of what we would have recommended.

The biggest question that arose in our minds as we discussed Twitter’s announcement was…why now? SOPA/PIPA was just stalled after a massive uproar came from the web, so why in the world would you decide this was a great time to announce improved censorship capabilities for your net-based service?

Perhaps they’ve never heard the phrase, “timing is everything?”

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For more resources, see the Free Management Library topic: Crisis Management
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[Jonathan Bernstein is president of Bernstein Crisis Management, Inc. , an international crisis management consultancy, and author of Manager’s Guide to Crisis Management and Keeping the Wolves at Bay – Media Training. Erik Bernstein is Social Media Manager for the firm, and also editor of its newsletter, Crisis Manager]

Why Should Practitioners Know Their Paradigms, Theories and Models?

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Why It’s Important for Us to Know Our Paradigms, Theories and Models

Paradigms, theories and models – we all have them and work from them. Many of us don’t know it. But we really should.

When we practitioners in human development (consultants, coaches, trainers, etc.) come to conclusions about our clients and their organizations, we should closely examine those conclusions. Are they accurate? Are your client’s accurate? What did you see in your client’s situation? What might you have missed? What were your assumptions about the situation? Were they valid? What do you know that might not be so?

The more we practitioners can understand and clarify our paradigms, theories and models, the more we can learn about ourselves and the more effective we can be in our practice. Also, the more we can explain to our clients and learners about what we do and why.

The overall field of human development has grown rapidly, especially in recent decades. Accordingly, so have different perspectives and opinions, including about the following terms. The terms paradigm, theories and models are highly related and integrated. As important as coming to any standard definition of each is the readers coming to their own definitions. Obviously, the following opinions are but mine.

So, What’s a Paradigm?

The term “paradigm,” especially in the broad field of human and organization development, refers to our overall way of seeing things – our overall way of thinking about something.

For example, my field, the field of Organization Development (OD), often suggests a new paradigm about organizations. Many OD professionals assert that it’s no longer useful to have an overall “mechanistic” view of the organization – as if it’s a machine with various parts that must be controlled in a top-down, highly centralized and controlled manner – as if employees are motivated primarily by external forces, such as authority and money. These professionals assert that, because of today’s very diverse and rapidly changing world, organizations must constantly learn and adapt.

Therefore, these professionals assert that we must undertake a “paradigm shift” to a more organic view of the organization – that the organization must constantly be changing and that this change comes from more decentralized designs that empower people to act and learn at the same time.

  • What’s your paradigm on organizations and people? Families? Economies?

Well, Then What’s a “Theory”?

A theory is a suggested explanation of why something occurs as it does. It suggests causes and effects. Our overall view on the world – our paradigm – greatly influences what theories we choose to learn and use. Our theories, in turn, influence our paradigms.

Perhaps the field of psychology is the best example to use here because those theories are often the basis for how we consultants, coaches and trainers work with people and organizations. We’re familiar with many of the theories of how people behave.

For example, there’s theories on what motivates people. Theory X suggests that people are naturally lazy and dislike work, so they need to be closely monitored and directed. The Theory suggests how we should design organizations and supervise people. We can see how this theory is closely aligned with the mechanistic paradigm.

Theory Y suggests that people enjoy satisfying and fulfilling work, and are self-motivated. Thus, if work is designed to be satisfying and fulfilling for them, they don’t need to be closely monitored and directed. Theory Y is closely associated with a newer paradigm on organizations and people.

Some people group theories into overall types of theories. For example, various theories in the field of psychology are often the overall types of theories held by consultants, coaches and trainers. The psychoanalytic theories (developed by Sigmund Freud) derived those of Alfred Adler and Carol Jung. The adult development theories include the solution-focused therapy, which is often referred to by the field of personal and professional coaching. Another example is Systems Theory, which includes many theories about how systems work.

  • What theory or theories explain why you do what you do with your clients?
  • Can you explain them?

OK, So What’s a Model? (Sometimes Referred to as a “Framework”)

A model depicts a theory. It depicts the relationships, the causes and effects suggested by the theory. For example, many coaching schools that have the same paradigms and have similar theories, but differentiate themselves by using different models.

In coaching, one of the most popular models is GROW, which is an acronym for the phases of a coaching process, including 1) clarifying goals, 2) understanding the current reality, 3) identifying relevant and realistic options to address the goals, and 4) deciding what a person will do about the situation. The GROW model probably is aligned with various theories, but certainly seems to be with Theory Y and also with a newer paradigm on organizations and people.

Some people might refer to a model as a “framework,” meaning the phases or steps and their sequence. For example, many OD consultants refer to the action research framework, which has numerous variations based largely on the sequence of 1) doing a plan, 2) taking actions based on that plan, 3) observing the results and 4) reflecting on the results to learn from them, and perhaps to modify the original plan.

Theories and models often generate associated tools. For example, there are numerous systems tools associated with systems theories.

  • What are some of your models in your work?
  • Can you explain them?
  • Are they associated with any theory(s)?

What About Just Using Our “Gut Feel”? What’s Wrong With That?

Many practitioners might assert that they just operate by “gut feel” – they intuitively sense the situation, how to work with their clients, and what should occur as a result. They work almost unconsciously. Many practitioners are extremely successful with that approach.

The field of training and development often refers to stages of competences and how people must progress through them in order to achieve long-lasting development. The stages include:

  1. Unconscious incompetence
  2. Conscious incompetence
  3. Conscious competence
  4. Unconscious competence

“Gut feel” practitioners have somehow reached stage four.

But it can be extremely difficult to further develop one’s skills unless those developments go through the stages, as well. At some point, the practitioner must consciously recognize what he is doing and why in order to more fully develop their skills.

Here’s another reason to go beyond gut feel. There is increasing competition among practitioners in the fields of human and organization development. It helps tremendously if practitioners can clearly explain their models to potential clients in order to differentiate themselves from the increasing number of practitioners in the field of human development. Practitioners are not likely to be successful in this competitive environment if they explain that they go by “gut feel.”

  • If you are very successful at using “gut feel,” then perhaps there are theory(s) and model(s) behind your powerful intuition. Draft a basic model that describes the basic steps and their sequence that you use with clients. Then describe to yourself, especially why you use those steps and that sequence. So is that your “model” after all?

For many related, free online resources, see the following Free Management Library’s topics:

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Carter McNamara, MBA, PhD – Authenticity Consulting, LLC – 800-971-2250
Read my blogs: Boards, Consulting and OD, and Strategic Planning.

Twitter Wit: Is It Time for Subtle?

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Before we had all of our gadgets, even television and radio, we had to amuse ourselves with books; we learned by tutors unless there was an established school, but for the rich, we turned to mostly tutors, learned men of the day. Different subjects for different sexes, too. There were subjects considered too manly for ladies. I’m not talking about the 20th or 21st century, but earlier when wit was the way we entertained ourselves in society; it was how we conducted business, and, of course, it was how we demonstrated our ability to lead others with our sophistication. People were admired and respected for their ability to use their wit and charm.

An odd way to start a training blog, but it seemed apropos, considering the topic. Today is filled with opportunities to reach a lot of people quickly through such obvious sources as twitter and other social/professional media. Some bloggers are quite witty. Some trainers, speakers and writers make a living using their wit. Stand-up comics and actors, it would seem to be a logical extension of those marked abilities–if they were particularly well known.

We do it all the time. We have moved away from the formal in many ways of doing business or conducting training. Tutoring is coaching, and you could assume a good tutor must also be able to charm as well as educate. We know the value of engaging an audience and generally this is one of the ways, probably the most used way of ingratiating ourselves with a client.

I wonder if we are doing ourselves any favors by focusing on the wit, rather than substance. Better yet, should we grow the “wit” to extend into longer expressions and discussions. We do it some. Substitute wit and charm to engage our audience and it’s there. Some bloggers do it. Short blogs don’t have much opportunity for a lot or wit or information; while longer ones can become short essays or commentary. There are advantages and disadvantages to each. I hope I fit into the latter category, or else my blogs are just too long for no purpose.

As a teacher, I am concerned we are creating a society that will be able to engage in short bursts of wit as we are bound to use in Twitter, Facebook, or LinkedIn so important is it to get out message in. Or, is message volume and repetition more important than information focused on our target market? Are other people–just because they are in the same circle as us really customers. There’s nothing I hate more than an e-mail from a “friend” I’ve never met because we have this special connection that is nothing more than a sales pitch. Had this person asked for advice or suggested a connection, I might have listened instead of hitting the delete key. I expect I’ll hear from social marketers on this one, but I’d rather hear what they have to say before they try to sell me on the advantages of what they know, which I don’t, and waste my time and theirs. So, for me volume and repetition causes me to ignore or dislike intensely the product being offered–maybe even the entire range of product or services to include all other vendors.

So, what’s the answer. Maybe it is time for subtle. That’s what was so charming and engaging about wit: it was subtle. Maybe we do more of the living, more of the being who we say we are in so many characters (140 in Twitter), write things that do more than market. Sell yourself through your wit, sell your product or service in a more subtle way by being charming and helpful to others less successful, rather than a full market press. Could this be the new, unthinkable road to success in this world of sound bytes and flash cards like twitter?

You tell me. Your comments are appreciated and posted if subtle and appropriate. They don’t have to be witty. My website is also yours to peruse should you have any curiosity about other subjects I take on. My background as a professional actor, trainer, speaker, and performance critic give me an unusual perspective sometimes. My Cave Man Guide to Training and Development, available through most eBook retailers, especially Smashwords, I’m practically giving it away. Smashwords is one of the many sites where you can write and publish your wit easily and with minimal cost. Now available through Amazon: my novel, Harry’s Reality, is about what happens when the world stops talking to one another and allows the devices take over to make “acceptable and positive” connections.

Happy Training.

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Useful Communications Skills — How to Paraphrase and Summarize

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Two very useful skills in communicating with others, including when coaching and facilitating, are paraphrasing and summarizing the thoughts of others.

How to Paraphrase When Communicating and Coaching With Others

Paraphrasing is repeating in your words what you interpreted someone else to be saying. Paraphrasing is powerful means to further the understanding of the other person and yourself, and can greatly increase the impact of another’s comments. It can translate comments so that even more people can understand them. When paraphrasing:

  • Put the focus of the paraphrase on what the other person implied, not on what you wanted him/her to imply, e.g., don’t say, “I believe what you meant to say was …”. Instead, say “If I’m hearing you right, you conveyed that …?”
  • Phrase the paraphrase as a question, “So you’re saying that …?”, so that the other person has the responsibility and opportunity to refine his/her original comments in response to your question.
  • Put the focus of the paraphrase on the other person, e.g., if the person said, “I don’t get enough resources to do what I want,” then don’t paraphrase, “We probably all don’t get what we want, right?”
  • Put the ownership of the paraphrase on yourself, e.g., “If I’m hearing you right …?” or “If I understand you correctly …?”
  • Put the ownership of the other person’s words on him/her, e.g., say “If I understand you right, you’re saying that …?” or “… you believe that …?” or “… you feel that …?”
  • In the paraphrase, use some of the words that the other person used. For example, if the other person said, “I think we should do more planning around here.” You might paraphrase, “If I’m hearing you right in this strategic planning workshop, you believe that more strategic planning should be done in our community?”
  • Don’t judge or evaluate the other person’s comments, e.g., don’t say, “I wonder if you really believe that?” or “Don’t you feel out-on-a-limb making that comment?”
  • You can use a paraphrase to validate your impression of the other’s comments, e.g., you could say, “So you were frustrated when …?”
  • The paraphrase should be shorter than the original comments made by the other person.
  • If the other person responds to your paraphrase that you still don’t understand him/her, then give the other person 1-2 chances to restate his position. Then you might cease the paraphrasing; otherwise, you might embarrass or provoke the other person.

How to Effectively Summarize

A summary is a concise overview of the most important points from a communication, whether it’s from a conversation, presentation or document. Summarizing is a very important skill for an effective communicator.

A good summary can verify that people are understanding each other, can make communications more efficient, and can ensure that the highlights of communications are captured and utilized.

When summarizing, consider the following guidelines:

  • When listening or reading, look for the main ideas being conveyed.
  • Look for any one major point that comes from the communication. What is the person trying to accomplish in the communication?
  • Organize the main ideas, either just in your mind or written down.
  • Write a summary that lists and organizes the main ideas, along with the major point of the communicator.
  • The summary should always be shorter than the original communication.
  • Does not introduce any new main points into the summary – if you do, make it clear that you’re adding them.
  • If possible, have other readers or listeners also read your summary and tell you if it is understandable, accurate and complete.

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Carter McNamara, MBA, PhD – Authenticity Consulting, LLC – 763-971-8890
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