How to Speak With Confidence in Any Situation

A man speaking confidently on a presentation

bigfearIt happens. You are asked to fill in for your boss’s big presentation. You are new to a project and have been asked for an update. You are in a meeting when you are called on to speak or share your opinion. These are all situations where you might experience a sudden drop in your confidence. Yet, they are critical opportunities for you to shine. What to do? How to keep cool and stay grounded? How to look and sound confident even when you aren’t?

Here are some ideas you might try in these cases:

Keep breathing. Instead of taking a quick breath and holding it, exhale and release tension from your body. Take in another quiet breath. Repeat. Two or three cleansing breaths, or as many as you need, should keep the discomfort from overwhelming you. You could even say to yourself, “this is fine. I have a plan. I know what I am talking about.”

Stay focused. Stay in the moment. Don’t think about yourself or looking stupid. Think about what is being asked, and why. Think about what you know or what you can contribute.

Speak with a full voice and firm inflections. Even if you are a little unsure of your answer, speak it with assurance. If you answer with a timid, weak voice, you are going to undermine any answer you provide. Make sure your statements don’t sound like questions. Even if you are forced to say you are not sure, say that with assurance!

Mind your body language. Watch that you keep your arms and hands relaxed and open. The natural tendency is to close your arms, hunch your shoulders, or cover your chest with your arms. Just stay open and you will look more confident.

Concentrate your efforts on what you do know or think. Don’t start to worry about what you don’t know or say what you don’t know. Say what you do think. Even if you must state it as an opinion, you do have something to contribute.

Turn the presentation into a discussion. Everyone in the audience may have a piece of information, an idea or a question about the topic. Instead of droning on (or reading your boss’s slides) start a discussion. You might begin by asking everyone what questions they have, and then answering them as you go through the presentation. Or turn the whole thing into a Q&A session and focus on getting the answers to the audience.

Ask a question to move the conversation forward. If someone is asking for your thoughts, you might answer briefly, and then ask what they think. They probably have some ideas of their own, and that might unleash a great conversation.

Provide a qualified or partial answer. If the situation calls for an opinion and you aren’t quite ready to commit, you might say this is a “first reaction” or “preliminary opinion,” and then state your thoughts. You could also say you are still “fact finding” and would appreciate any facts the listeners could share.

Clearly these strategies won’t work in every situation, but on those occasions where you need to speak without having all the facts, one of these could buy you time or save the day. Whenever you can, take the proper amount of time to prepare yourself thoroughly with study and rehearsal.

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I would love to hear from you. How do you speak with confidence in challenging situations?

Author Gail Zack Anderson, founder of Applause, Inc. is a Twin Cities-based consultant who provides coaching and workshops for effective presentations, facilitation skills for trainers and subject matter experts, and positive communication skills for everyone. She can be reached at gza@applauseinc.net.

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Three Strategies to Connect and Engage Employees

The attitude “I don’t give a rip about my job” happens every single day. Is it happening in your company? Did you know that 50% of workers today would rather be someplace else? And another 20% take out their frustration every day and may be doing more harm than good. What about your people?

I have found that employees get this way when they are bored with their job, or feel like a faceless cog in a big wheel or don’t know how “what they do” specifically contributes to the goals of their department or business unit. How can you, as a manager or business owner prevent “It’s not my job” from happening within your team or department?

Three Strategies to Connect and Engage Employees

1. Communicate the importance of what they do.
Every supervisor should be able to state a meaningful purpose for his department and the work that is being done. Here is a short but powerful statement that was developed by a manager for her five-person benefits group.

“Benefits are about people. It’s not whether you have the forms filled in or whether the checks are written. It’s whether the people are cared for when they’re sick, helped when they’re in trouble.”

It is a statement with the focus on the end result—serving people—rather than on the means or process—completing forms. How well do you communicate the importance of what is being done in your department?

Related: Are You A Pride Builder?

2. Recognize the importance of recognition.
The motto of many supervisors is: Why would I need to thank someone for doing something he’s paid to do? Workers repeatedly tell, with great feeling, how much they appreciate a compliment. They also report how distressed they are when their supervisor is quick to criticize mistakes but not acknowledge good work.

A pat on the back, simply saying “good going,” a dinner for two, a note about them to senior executives, some schedule flexibility, a paid day off, or even a flower on a desk with a thank-you note are a few of the hundreds of ways supervisors can show their appreciation. Money may get people in the door but it doesn’t keep them motivated to go the extra mile.

Related: Rock For Employee Recognition

3. Tap into the importance of involvement.
There may be no single motivational tactic more powerful than asking for people’s input. An accounting manager presented a list of customer complaints at a staff meeting. She then broke the group into teams to find ways to eliminate these service glitches.

Getting every one involved in problem-solving accomplished three goals. It brought the customers to the center of the department’s day-to-day operations; it lead to greater ‘buy-in” when changes had to be made in a process, policy or procedures; and finally it said to everyone that they and their ideas are valued.

Related: Talk Less Listen More

As one very proud production line worker in an automotive plant said to me: “They only looked at what we could do from our neck down…now it’s for what we can do from our neck up.”

Management Success Tip:

It is true that most people must work to survive and money is certainly a motivator — but up to a point. For your employees to commit to and achieve great things, they need to experience purpose, recognition and involvement. As a manager you can provide that. It costs you nothing. And you will gain engaged employees who are working together to increase productivity and profitability.

Do you want to develop your Management Smarts?

Will Banks Get it Right?

[Editor’s note: The following post was shared with us by colleague Rene A. Henry, author, journalist, and business expert]

Major banks should thank Congress for replacing them at the bottom of the list the American public least trusts and respects. But it seems whatever they continue to do, most can’t seem to get it right.

The CEOs and governing boards obviously are hoping the American public will forget how many banks altered legal documents, forged signatures, manipulated Libor, piled hidden fees on their customers, deceived borrowers with subprime mortgages, and when they got into financial trouble, asked Congress to use $700 billion of taxpayer money to bail them out.

Just following the rules of basic common sense and good old fashioned common courtesy, it translates into customer service. But customer service is an oxymoron to most in the banking and financial service business.

I did not expect the CEO of a major bank to deliberately mislead or deceive me.

I was concerned whether or not an email was legitimate or a phishing scam and could not find any contact in security at Bank of America so I wrote CEO Brian T. Moynihan and asked that it be forwarded to someone in security. I also wrote him that I was an author and journalist and would like to be in contact with the bank’s public relations department.

I did not expect Moynihan to see my letter but I did expect his gate keeper – they prefer to be called executive assistants – to “listen” and read my letter and forward a copy to security and notify someone in PR. When I finally got a response it was from someone with the title of “customer advocate” who said she worked in the office of the president. This individual was based in Newark, Delaware, some 400 miles from Moynihan’s office in Charlotte, N.C.

Why did Bank of America lie to me? Why not just have the individual who responded just let me know that my letter was forwarded to her and she is responding to help me anyway she could? I would have had more respect for the bank if I had been told the truth and showed it was concerned and wanted to help.

This must be a common practice with bank CEOs who seem to act more like greedy Henry F. Potter, played by Lionel Barrymore, who was George Bailey’s nemesis in the 1946 movie “It’s A Wonderful Life.” Jimmy Stewart played the role of Bailey. A couple of years ago I wrote John G. Stumpf, president and CEO of Wells Fargo in San Francisco, and had a response from a young man in Des Moines, Iowa who claimed to be in Stumpf’s office. I wonder if the two have even met.

Once I’ve been lied to, I never know when a person or company is ever telling the truth. We do need more bankers like Jimmy Stewart’s Bailey. Where I find such bankers is at the base of the pyramid, my local bank. In my latest book about customer service, I praise my Madison Park branch of Wells Fargo and my mortgage banker and his team, for their extraordinary customer service. Normally customer service leadership starts at the top.

Everyone has a horror story to tell about a bank. One of the most egregious is one told by Seattle Times staff columnist Danny Westneat about Marion Dohoney, an 85-year-old woman who had been a customer of one bank for 62 years, and now was going to be charged $25 a month to continue doing business there. Her first and only checking account was with First National Bank that became Seafirst which was taken over by Bank of America. “Nothing will get you pining for the old days like a form letter from your megalith bank saying they plan to start charging you $300 a year for the privilege of keeping your money there,” was the way Westneat quoted Dohoney in his column.

Maybe to get customer service from some banks these days you need to use the power of social media. My good friend Marvin was given the total runaround by TD Bank in New Jersey – first at the branch, then from their 800 numbers and finally from the TD website. So he then asked for help from his son, a prominent award-winning author and journalist. His son posted this on the bank’s Twitter site: “After receiving inaccurately printed checks from #TD Bank_US, my father was forced to bring in my mother’s death certificate to correct.”

The son immediately received calls from the Bergen County regional manager and the local bank’s manager who corrected the problem. That evening, my friend received a large basket of fruit with the apologies of the branch manager. While very appreciative, Marv said the next time he has a complaint that will be posted on Twitter he’ll let them know he’s in need of caviar and blinis!

CEOs and especially their gate keepers need to spend more time with their employees in local branch offices to truly understand customer service. And we need more George Baileys running our banks.

Rene A. Henry is an author and journalist who lives in Seattle. His latest book, “Customer Service: the cornerstone of success,” should be a must read for any senior executive and his summary of basic rules should be adopted as company policy. He writes on a variety of subjects and many are posted on his website, www.renehenry.com.

Unclear Policies Lead to Crisis for Cemetery and Grieving Family

Leaving room for confusion is a crisis management mistake

Not having clear policies, and training your employees on what to do when a situation falls “outside the box” can create a need for crisis management. A historic Cincinnati cemetery found itself in a pickle after initially allowing, then removing, a headstone featuring a seven foot tall depiction of SpongeBob SquarePants. PRDaily’s Matt Wilson shared more info on the situation:

The family of Iraq war veteran Kimberly Walker has gone public with its story of the cemetery’s decision to remove her headstone, which depicts her favorite cartoon character, SpongeBob, in an Army uniform with Walker’s name and rank.

The headstone went up Oct. 10, eight months after Walker, 28, was found killed in a Colorado hotel room. A day later, the family says, the cemetery opted to take it down along with one very similar to it, placed for Walker’s living twin sister, despite giving prior approval to the designs.

The cemetery’s president has reportedly told USA Today simply, “We’ve decided that they aren’t appropriate for our historic cemetery and they can’t be displayed here.”

Difficult situation, right? Already in the article comments PRDaily readers are stating they would be upset if they came across this gravestone near the resting place of their loved ones, and if Spring Grove’s reputation really is as a traditional, historic cemetery then they are risking major stakeholder upheaval should they allow SpongeBob to stay. On the other hand, they agreed to the gravestone, and even though reports are Walker’s family will be reimbursed there’s likely a lot of emotional investment that simply can’t be refunded. While we can’t say what the solution will be, either way it’s going to cost the cemetery.

How do you avoid a similar situation? When it comes to policy, be it retail returns or cemetery gravestone styles, you need to have established, written policies which explain exactly what is and is not allowed. Not only that, but your employees also need to be trained (and regularly re-trained) to follow said guidelines. Now, blindly adhering to guidelines without considering situational specifics can be dangerous as well, which is why you need to ensure each and every person who represents your organization understands how to politely pass a stakeholder up the chain should they have an outside-the-box request.

Having a contrast between what an employee says and what the rules actually are is a slippery slope that often leads to crisis. Establish clear guidelines, train religiously, and avoid this pitfall altogether.

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For more resources, see the Free Management Library topic: Crisis Management
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[Jonathan Bernstein is president of Bernstein Crisis Management, Inc., an international crisis management consultancy, author of Manager’s Guide to Crisis Management and Keeping the Wolves at Bay – Media Training. Erik Bernstein is Social Media Manager for the firm, and also editor of its newsletter, Crisis Manager]

FDA’s Reputation Taking Flak Over Jerky Treat Mystery

Failing to protect your constituents isn’t good for the reputation

The FDA can’t figure out what exactly is sending hundreds of dogs and cats to the vet, but they know it’s related to the popular jerky treats sold by many big brands. Unfortunately, that information alone isn’t enough to keep them off store shelves, leaving the FDA between a rock and a hard place.

Exactly how many pets have been affected? NBC News’ JoNel Aleccia reports:

Nearly 600 pets have died and more than 3,600 have been sickened in an ongoing, mysterious outbreak of illnesses tied to jerky treats made in China, federal animal health officials said Tuesday.

Unable to solve the situation alone, the FDA is crowdsourcing its crisis management, sending vets around the country this message asking them to submit information about any suspected jerky pet-treat related illnesses. They’ve also created a website for the public to submit reports and find the latest information on the situation.

This is good, but, as with any crisis situation, there is only so long treating the symptoms will fly. The FDA needs to find a way to stop the problem, or its (let’s face it, already shaky) reputation will accrue more serious damage.

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For more resources, see the Free Management Library topic: Crisis Management
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[Jonathan Bernstein is president of Bernstein Crisis Management, Inc., an international crisis management consultancy, author of Manager’s Guide to Crisis Management and Keeping the Wolves at Bay – Media Training. Erik Bernstein is Social Media Manager for the firm, and also editor of its newsletter, Crisis Manager]

Crisis Management Warning: Burglars Use Social Media Too

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Be careful what you share, not everyone watching is a friend

We mostly discuss crisis management for various organizations or prominent individuals, but there are an awful lot of crises that happen in day-to-day life as well.

Organizations of all kinds are making use of social media, and you’d better believe that includes criminal ones as well. Anyone who’s had their house burglarized can tell you it’s not only extremely frightening, but can also cost you big time in terms of uninsured items or lost data, treasured pictures, or family heirlooms, which is why it’s important to know the data shared in this infographic from Distinctive Doors:

How Burglars Are Using Using Social Media – An infographic by the team at Distinctive Doors

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For more resources, see the Free Management Library topic: Crisis Management
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[Jonathan Bernstein is president of Bernstein Crisis Management, Inc., an international crisis management consultancy, author of Manager’s Guide to Crisis Management and Keeping the Wolves at Bay – Media Training. Erik Bernstein is Social Media Manager for the firm, and also editor of its newsletter, Crisis Manager]

Value Of Slide Shows

Presenting through a slideshow on the screen

User manuals provide a road map for the user. Many technical writers embed screen shots or images into documents to aid the user in seeing what a product or application is composed of, how a task is achieved, and most importantly, what not to do. But there are always questions as to where and how many images should be embedded, should the image take up a full or half a page, plus where should the placement of text be set for the image; adjacent, above, below, etc. Is there another solution?

Technical writers or communicators should always try to find a simpler way to display how one can navigate from one area to another or how to define or describe systems, applications, and products. Many new solutions or products have evolved now where we can just develop slide shows to display, describe, and to project what has to be done, can be done, and what cannot be done visually. They use it for marketing, education, enhancing their product, sharing of knowledge, etc. Many of these new platforms are now cloud-based and provide good security and file sharing.

Once slides are created, individuals just need to select the desired file, and at their own pace, just click the appropriate option to move from one screen shot to the next for viewing. Slide shows are easy, convenient and entertaining. Many organizations now create various tutorials with cleverly designed characters to help describe what the object of the presentations are about.

Creators can now animate the characters depicting faces with different emotions (depending on the situation of the event). We are part of a generation where we can use the right side of the brain for displaying our artistic skills and enjoy the outcomes of creative designs for wire framing, mapping, storyboarding, etc.

These slide shows or presentations make it easy for us to socially communicate, share knowledge, and collaborate on the web or through any popular medium. Even children at the age of 2 know how to touch an icon on a tablet or screen and know that by doing so, their favorite video will appear. I know this for a fact because my little nephew can do it.

Slide shows cannot completely take the place of user manuals, but they are a great option that is now available for us to use. Presentations cannot be created any easier than they are today. We can apply animation, audio, and visual to convey our documentation, tutorials, and anything else that has to be communicated. We also get to have fun while creating it for our audience.

Fun is mentioned because it is holiday time and close to the end of the year and I’m smiling because I’m happy that we have such wonderful readers of our website. It’s time to say Thank You all for being our readers this past year and for sharing your thoughts with us. Have a Wonderful Holiday and a Happy New Year. Happy reading in 2014.

Sephora’s Crisis Management for Celebutard Uproar

Abstract representation of crisis with wooden pieces

Consider public perception when you make marketing decisions

We’re beginning to think that crisis management should be a required class for every marketing major. Cosmetics giant Sephora is the latest to join the long list of organizations that have made ridiculously poor marketing choices after its lipstick, “Celebutard” drew fire from such groups as All About Developmental Disabilities and Down Syndrome Uprising, in addition to thousands of friends and family members of people living with mental health issues.

The lipstick, which was created in cooperation with tatoo maven Kat Von D, was pulled from shelves, and Sephora issued the following statement:

“It has come to our attention that the name of one shade of a lipstick we carry has caused offense to some of our clients and others. We are deeply sorry for that, and we have ceased sale of that shade both in our stores and online.”

As with most of the crisis communications we see, this statement would have been far more impactful if it included a hefty dose of compassion. However, given some time (and no repeat offenses), this situation should blow over for Sephora.

Von D was less concerned, reportedly tweeting, ““At the end of the day, it’s just a f—— lipstick.” Obviously someone in her camp is thinking clearly, though, as the tweet was quickly deleted.

One of the most important parts of any communication is to stop and think, “how could this offend someone?” If the answers come pouring out, it’s time to go back to the drawing board.

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For more resources, see the Free Management Library topic: Crisis Management
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[Jonathan Bernstein is president of Bernstein Crisis Management, Inc., an international crisis management consultancy, author of Manager’s Guide to Crisis Management and Keeping the Wolves at Bay – Media Training. Erik Bernstein is Social Media Manager for the firm, and also editor of its newsletter, Crisis Manager]

Working for a Higher Purpose: Conscious Capitalism

Business men smiling while discussing in a meeting

Today’s blog focuses on Conscious Capitalism. As we enter the holiday season of good will towards all, your purchases and investments play a part in creating a world of peace and well-being, or greed and exploitation.

I want to spotlight three companies who are helping build a better world: World Reader, Root Capital, and SoleRebels

Are your investments creating the kind of world you want to have?

I’ve written several blogs about the importance of supporting companies who walk the talk of the Triple Bottom Line (people, planet, profits). These companies truly believe in Corporate Social Responsibility.

As you grow your retirement funds, consider the social good that is created by the companies in your portfolio. Ask about the impact of your investments….. beyond your financial ROI.

Think about this- What good is saving a lot of money for retirement if the world you live in is less safe, more volatile?

If you don’t support conscious businesses, Will you need to earn even more money to pay for healthy food, clean air and clean water in the future?

Are you supporting businesses whose mission serves a higher purpose?

Root Capital coffee lady

Eradicating Illiteracy

David Risher was an executive working at Amazon.com when they were developing the Kindle. He had an ephiphany on a trip to Ecuador. He saw a library in a remote village where most book orders never arrived. His vision was to provide books to remote villages around the globe by going digital. Risher left his job at Amazon to pursue a higher calling. Through a pilot project with funding from USAID in Ghana, he was able to demonstrate the potential of putting ebooks into the hands of children easily.

Worldreader has wirelessly distributed more than 721,129 African and international e-books to children in 9 sub-Saharan African countries. http://www.worldreader.org/about-us/our-mission/

Soleful Vision

Founded in 2005 with her brother and husband, Bethlehem Tilahun Alemu creates sandals made from recycled tires.“Everyone today is concerned about reducing carbon footprints, which is great. But at soleRebels we also believe that people around the world want much more from the brands they are buying”, says Bethlehem. “I also want to emphasize that a company like ours can build scalable community-based businesses that allow people to have well paid jobs, while creating market-leading products and preserving the environment”. Bethlehem was invited by President Clinton to be one of the panelists at the Clinton Global Initiative (http://solerebels.ethiovision.com/).

Sustainable Farming

William Foote left a lucrative job on Wall Street to help farmers and coffee growers in Latin America. While working in Mexico he saw a need for creating a thriving financial market for mid-range agricultural businesses, those too big for microlending and too small for other global funding. Built on the idea of microlending, Root Capital is a social investment fund that grows rural prosperity in poor, environmentally vulnerable places in Africa and Latin America. His company lends capital and delivers financial training, and strengthens market connections for smaller farms and agricultural co-operatives (http://www.rootcapital.org/our-approach).

Remember socially responsible companies next time you adjust your stock portfolio or retirement funds. It’s a powerful way to put your money where your values are.

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Dr. Linda J. Ferguson writes about business ethics, corporate social responsibility and spirituality at work. Read her books, “Path for Greatness: Work as Spiritual Service” and “Staying Grounded in Shifting Sand: Awakening Soul Consciousness in the New Millennium” for more ideas on these themes.

A Change to The Fundraising Blog…

…in frequency, not in substance.

Up to now (and except for Summertime) we’ve been publishing twice each week, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Starting in January, we’ll be publishing only on Wednesdays; but, each posting will contain two shorter pieces on different subjects (sometimes half of a longer piece).

For over three-and-one-half years, we’ve been writing/posting about Fundraising/Development — The Basics and the more Advanced….

We’ve written on (in alphabetical order) Board & Staff Relations, Capital Campaigns, Certification, Corporate Fundraising, Development Staff, Donor Categories, Donor Recognition, Donor Relations, Effective Grantsmanship – Foundation and Government, Fundraising Accounting Practices, Fundraising Constituencies, Fundraising Consultants, Fundraising Ethics, Fundraising Leadership, Fundraising Planning, Hiring Consultants, Major Gifts, The Mature Non-Profit, The New Nonprofit, Nonprofit Leadership, Planned Giving (including Bequest Programs), Planning Studies, Special Events, Social Media, Workplace Fundraising … and even a couple of book reviews.

We’ve been writing in our areas of expertise, about subjects/issues we deem important, that we think would be of value to our readers.

We’ll keep ’em coming, but we’d like to be sure we’re writing about what you’d like to read about.

Let us know. We look forward to your continuing feedback.

We’re taking a break … be back on Wednesday, January 8 with an Announcement of and Descriptions of the following ten postings.

Happy Holidays
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