Law of Attraction: Release your Judgments and your Pain

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I have worked with several Coaching clients this year who recently lost their job. Like so many people in that situation, their fear over finances started to suck their energy, and drag them into a downward spiral.

To add salt to the wound, they also beat themselves up over losing their job. They add extra layers of blame, shame, and judgment to their current life situation. This only compounds their pain.

Typically my clients come to me emotionally wounded and mentally fatigued. They lack self-confidence to move forward and need an emotional boost to find their next job.

I help my clients step back from their experience enough to see it through a different lens.

Often just a few key insights helps shift their energy, re-gain their confidence, and provide hope for their job search.

Law of Attraction – How to use it and Understand it

Two of these Job Coaching clients have worked with me to use and understand Law of Attraction better.

I can share dozens of stories where Law of Attraction was vividly demonstrated. It Works and It Is Real.

Whatever we project into the world, we attract (good and bad). Our thoughts, feelings, energy are magnets. So you need to be careful what you think, feel, do because it will be returned to you.

  • If we think self-ish thoughts or act self-ishly, we’ll attract self-ish people into our life.
  • If we think helpful thoughts or give generously, we’ll attract helpful people to us.
  • If we think we want to die or kill some aspect of our life, we develop a series illness or injury.

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Note: This point is important because it speaks to the deeper level that Law of Attraction works.

Our life works at a Soul AND Ego level – in everything we think, say or do. To live more joyfully, become intentional and aware of what you think, feel, and do. Then you can consciously draw to you what is for your Right Highest Good at your deeper soul level.

The key is to align your thoughts, judgments, behaviors, and emotions with your soul growth and Inherent Divine Nature more consciously.

The challenge at our ego/conscious level is to release judgments that our life experiences are ‘good’ vs. ‘bad’.

If you see your job loss as horrible, unfair, unwanted, etc., you’ll experience more pain because of those judgments and beliefs.

Instead, you can affirm a job loss was in your Right Highest Good at a deeper soul level. Hold the awareness that your experience is helping you grow spiritually, increase your faith, and aligns you more with your True Nature.

You’ll then shift from pain to hope.

Suffering and Judgments

Now I’ve been through a divorce, lost a job I loved, had financial hardships, lost beloved pets and dear friends. So I know how painful all these experiences can be. I’m not saying you won’t grieve or go through a time of feeling really awful. I’ve been in that pit of despair and know how much it really sucks.

What I AM saying is that how quickly you move through your grief, pain, judgment, blaming, shaming, clinging to the past – that all determines how quickly you shift the spiral of emotions…. and hence shift what you attract going forward.

Whether you’re going through an illness, job loss, ending a relationship etc., you’ll experience greater pain to the extent you add extra layers of judgments to what happened.

You can give yourself a bad emotional or mental lashing for what happened…just know that only adds salt to the wound.

If you continue to feel bad about what happened, feel disappointed, feel ashamed, your judgments and beliefs will keep pulling you in that direction.

It’s your judgments and thoughts that are perpetuating your pain, not the fact that you lost your job.

And…. Your judgments and emotions fuel the Law of Attraction to attract similar pain.

Reframe your Thoughts and You Shift your Experiences

This is why I remind my Coaching clients (and you here) to re-frame your thoughts around losing your job, relationship, home etc. Divine Discontent man image

Once you shift gears and reverse your judgments and emotions, you’ll shift what’s attracted to you. You can either keep spiraling down with your negative emotions and judgments, or you can catch yourself and reverse the spiral.

 

To shift the spiral of pain:

  1. Notice the judgments you are putting on the situation – are you continually saying how awful things are, how badly you were treated, or how crappy you feel?
  1. Affirm that what is happening is for your soul development and conscious evolution. Your soul growth comes from letting go of your judgments, emotional self-lashing, victim consciousness, poor pity me thinking.

Affirm that what is happening for your Right Highest Good and move forward from there.

 

Law of Attraction and Soul Fulfillment

If you understand Law of Attraction at a deeper soul level, you then see and understand that you are being guided, nudged, perhaps pushed to another expression of yourself that your old job/relationship/home etc didn’t allow you to have.

There is extra responsibility living in conscious awareness of how Law of Attraction works.

There is also more power in it too. When you learn to catch yourself in a negative spiral, you have more control to reverse it and pull more positive experiences to you.

Play with this over the coming week. Start with something less challenging and see how you do controlling and shifting your thoughts, emotions, judgments.

When something disappointing happens, notice your thoughts, judgments and emotions. See when you shift those judgments and emotions, things shift in your life.

Have fun practicing this over the next few days and weeks.

Bright Blessings.

~ Linda ~

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Linda J. Ferguson, Ph.D. is a Job and Life Coach. Her Coaching provides guidance and fresh perspectives to help you succeed at work and live joyfully. Visit www.lindajferguson.com/coaching/

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Vacate and Renew – 4 Major Benefits

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Summer is a time to recharge your batteries by going on vacation.

To Vacate is to leave things behind.

  • What are you ready to let go, leave behind, release?
  • What extra burdens are you carrying that aren’t yours to carry?

Make time this summer to finish a project at home or delegate some smaller tasks to others.

How about letting go of one burden you still carry that isn’t your responsibility -oooh there’s a challenge.

Vacating gives you a chance to start fresh.

If you have trouble delegating, finishing projects, or time management, consider getting support to learn successful strategies to stay focused and motivated*.

Vacation Benefits

summer-vacation-beach-chairsWe typically get time off in summer to re-set our “Go” button. Time to travel, visit friends, re-connect with family.

But is 1 week enough?? People with stressful or fast-paced jobs, need at least 3 days to unwind the pressure. That leaves only 3 days to relax before heading home.

In the U.S., we are lucky to get a two week summer vacation. In fact only 55% of companies give paid time off. USA Today reports, “The United States is the only developed country in the world without a single legally required paid vacation day or holiday. By law, every country in theEuropean Union has at least four work weeks of paid vacation.” (June 2013)

That’s right, the European Union mandates 4 weeks annual vacation, not counting national holidays.

Talk to your HR dept. Turns out they would probably agree that you need more time off.

Forbes shared the results of a survey by the Society of Human Resource Management (SHRM) that 94% of HR professionals agreed that more time off would lead to greater productivity. They found when employees take vacation, it makes a positive impact on performance, morale, wellness, culture, productivity and retention.

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In Australia they get a 6 month long service leave!

Yes you read that right—- 6 months to travel♦. (That’s why if you’ve gone overseas it’s not uncommon to run into an Aussie who’s been traveling for 3-4 months and has another few months to go.)

Long service leave rewards continuity, longevity, stability.

What if US companies offered a long service leave- especially one tied to renewing your certifications, sharping your skills, or learning entirely new skills?

Academia offers sabbaticals as a way for professors to keep current in their field, why not the rest of us?

Propose a 1 month study period, or immersive skill renewal time to all staff for every 7-10 yrs within your firm. This would build greater engagement and foster life-long learning. It also allows employees to keep current and follow trends in their field.

This could be built into your company’s Talent Management or Professional Development program. Staff would submit what they want to learn prior to scheduling their leave, and describe how they will bring their learning back to their job.

Such time could be used on technical skills or interpersonal/team skills to improve communication, Emotional Intelligence, conflict resolution. There are so many on-line programs, MeetUp Groups, Library seminars, and ebooks available, finding programs to fit someone’s schedule and budget should be feasible.

Take Your Vacation and Renew

Give yourself permission to use ALL your vacation days this year. You work hard for it. You earned it. You deserve it.

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♦ Australia has such programs due to geography and history. Most of the early Aussies came from the British Isles- literally half way around the globe. To see family left behind, it took nearly a month by boat to get there (and then of course a month to get back).

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Linda J. Ferguson, Ph.D. is a Job and Life Coach. She offers valuable strategies and tools to have successful work and balanced life.

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Servant Leadership and Compassionate Collaboration

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I’ve collaborated with Dr. Crystal Davis for the past two years. It’s been a nice creative process. I first met Crystal while she was working on her Ph.D. She had read my book “Path for Greatness: Work as Spiritual Service” and wanted to include it as a piece of her dissertation work.

Here’s a post she wrote recently related to her dissertation on Servant Leadership.

Enjoy!

#ServantLeadership #Compassion #InspiringLeadership

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Servant Leadership and Compassionate Collaboration (Pillar IV)

“None of us is perfect by ourselves”

~Robert Greenleaf

A Servant-Leader builds relationships, embraces diversity and is the creator of a culture of collaboration. Pillar IV is the Servant Leader as Compassionate Collaborator. A Servant-Leader who compassionately collaborates;

  • Invites and rewards the contribution of others.
  • Is always mindful and aware of the quality of work-life balance and continually builds caring, supportive, and collaborative teams and communities.
  • Develops a positive rapport with diverse people, acknowledge cultural difference, and values a variety of backgrounds.
  • Neutralizes disagreements respectfully, diplomatically, and constructively.

Three core competencies of a Servant-Leader who is a compassionate collaborator;

  • Expresses Appreciation
  • Builds Teams and Communities
  • Negotiates Conflict
  • Together
  • Everyone
  • Achieves
  • More

Servant-Leaders develop a culture of collaboration. This type of culture takes time to build, but a Servant Leader knows it is the way to harmony (as it is seen in Japanese cultures) and the success of an organization or project. A collaborative culture includes:

  • Trust and respect in everyday situations,
  • Equalitarian attitudes among members at all ranks,
  • Power based on expertise and accountability,
  • Shared leadership where all members take initiative,
  • Commitment to the success of other members, rather than just one’s own success,
  • Valuing the truth and truth-telling,
  • Commitment to continuous improvement of the whole organization,
  • Active learning, and
  • Personal responsibility.

Building a culture of collaboration is worth the work. As a Servant-Leader strives to reach consensus about doing the right thing, one comes to understand quickly, that the right thing may be different for the customer, the manager, or the boss. To engage in consensus decision-making, a Servant-Leader understands that while everyone may not agree with the ultimate decision, that everyone is going to support the decision and not undermine it. At the end of the day, the Servant-Leader who has engaged in compassionate collaboration is one that when everyone who leaves the room claiming “we” made the decision and not just the leader.

One of the three competencies of a compassionate collaboration is expressing appreciation. Five tips that Servant-Leaders engage when praising people include:

Praise with a Purpose

Understand the difference between a compliment and praise that reinforces positive performance. For example, telling Jane you like her new glasses is a compliment. Telling Jane you appreciate her contribution to helping the organization stay organized and on time is effective praise.

Be Specific

“Good job, Way to Go!” is a good way to show appreciation but what’s even better is saying, “What an impressive procedure you developed for handling customer service conflicts on the telephone.” Be brief and precise.

Consider the Receiver

It helps to be aware generation-sensitive language (You wouldn’t want to say “good job dude” to a person that is seen as an elder) and to be aware of personalities and feelings of the receiver of your recognition. John might prefer a quiet hallway conversation while Sally might appreciate a banner or balloons. Know your people!

Be Sincere

Be authentic, heartfelt, and proportionate. People can sense phoniness and brown-nosing a mile away.

Do It Often

Celebrate small successes – frequently, consistently, and conscientiously. It is good business, and it is one way a Servant-Leader acts on her commitment to the growth of others.

Crislip and Larson, in their book, Collaborative Leadership put it this way;

“The purpose of collaboration is to create a shared vision and joint strategies to address concerns that go beyond the purview of any particular party.”

Servant Leaders understand that the growth of self and others is interrelated with compassionate collaboration. Without it, failure is inevitable.

To Collaborating,

Dr. Crystal

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Crystal J Davis is a servant leader, blogger, and researcher. She holds a Doctorate in Management specializing in Organizational Leadership. Dr. Davis is passionately engaged in Servant Leadership and selfless service to the nonprofit and public sectors having served both large and small organizations throughout her career and her consulting business.

© Copyright 2015 ~Dr. Crystal J. Davis. All Rights Reserved.

Honoring Balance with Self-Acceptance

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I recently started reading, “The Pathwork of Self-Transformation” by Eva Pierrakos. From what I’ve gleaned so far, the Pathwork process is about finding the unresolved conflicts within you that create turmoil, problems, tensions in your life.

It reminded me of the concept of Polarity Management, the ability to manage conflicting desires, needs, yearnings.

The elusive balance we often seek is actually a constant swinging between competing interests, values, ideals. Most people want to feel a sense of accomplishment (which often comes from hard or dedicated work) and still enjoy free time for play and relaxation.

We want companionship AND independence, community AND individuality. We want simplicity but not boredom, organization and stability, but not a lot of rules and regulations.

Think of an infinity sign Infinity sign

– when you swing too far to one side focusing on one quality (eg., work), you reach a point of diminishing returns or extremes, and problems erupt. So you need to adjust and loop back around with the other quality for a while. Then when that goes too far you swing back again. Only in the middle (see the infinity sign), is there the point of balance.

So it is that we navigate through life finding ourselves swinging between our competing ideals.

The Pathwork book got me to thinking about the polarity of my life and the “Shoulds” I learned growing up. Most of the “Shoulds” I learned were there to help me be a functioning, responsible, capable person. I’m glad I learned them.

But without also recognizing the value of opposite qualities, what some call the Shadow or hidden side, I am not able to see how I negate or run away from the very quality that will bring balance.

As I sat down to write this blog, I realized we are quickly approaching the Spring Equinox. A time of Balance. As we move from darkness to greater light, we reach that wonderful, tender, fleeting time of balance in our day (March 20th this year).

During this week of Spring, I want to claim my Inner Balance.

I created a list of qualities that I’ve learned from my life experiences are important to guide my way, honoring both so I find Balance. I want to honor and accept both the Light and the Shadow qualities (It’s OK to be Strong and OK to be Vulnerable) so I don’t have to continue my inner struggle or outer-world turmoil.

Just as the seasons change naturally, with no season being “right” or “wrong”, I’ve come again to the understanding that no quality is inherently right or wrong. They are all needed at times, and they all bring balance.

I invite you to review your life and see what qualities are creating the competing forces in your life. Develop your list of what helps you find balance within you and in your life.

Walk in Balance,

Aho!

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Linda J. Ferguson, Ph.D. is a Job and Life Coach. She offers guidance and fresh perspectives to help you have successful work and balanced life. Visit www.lindajferguson.com/coaching/ for more information.

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Love in All Ways

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‘Tis the season of Love – a time to remember the power of Love to heal, transform, and nourish.
Valentine’s day is a reminder of all the ways that Love shows up in our life.

Sometimes Love shows up with flowers and candy.

Sometimes Love shows up as an unexpected call from a friend.

Sometimes Love shows up as a painful memory, prompting us to forgive.

Sometimes Love shows up as an illness or loss, allowing us to receive support and comfort.

Sometimes Love shows up as criticism or a biting comment, calling us to respond with love, knowing that people who are hurting hurt others.

Sometimes Love shows up as doubt or worry, nudging us to step up to the magnificence of who we truly are.

Sometimes Love shows up as self-criticism or shaming, providing the opportunity to heal an old wound.

Sometimes Love shows up as judgments or blaming, asking us to give up arrogance and righteousness.

However Love shows up, know this:

There is more Love – Always and in All Ways.

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There is more Love Somewhere

I love this song as a reminder to walk the path of Love. Remember these words even when you are hurt, tired, feel defensive, or about to criticize others or yourself.

There is more Love somewhere

There is more Love somewhere

I’m gonna keep on ’til I find it

There is more Love somewhere

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Linda J. Ferguson, Ph.D. is the author of two books on spiritual living. Linda is a Job and Life Coach for people who are ready to release their doubts, fears, and self-limiting beliefs to live with greater joy and peace.
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Get UnStuck and Get On with Your Life!

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January is behind you and those New Year Resolutions may be a distant memory. You still want to lose weight, be more patient with your kids, change jobs, get more organized. Yet you just don’t seem to have the focus, energy, or motivation to make a change. You keep letting old habits go on auto-pilot.

It’s hard to break old patterns. You need to pay attention to shake routines. It takes determination and commitment to truly go after what you want.

Most people change behavior due to two factors- inspiration or desperation.

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Don’t wait to get desperate to make a change. Get Unstuck and get on with your life! Click here for practical, effective tools to make the changes that matter to you: Get UnStuck Tool Kit

To help you with some more inspiration, I want to share this article from my colleague Jim Koehneke. Enjoy!

What to Do When You Feel Stuck

by Jim Koehneke

It happens. We get caught up in our lives, dealing with outer conditions that we don’t like and then try to change them. Only to find it’s impossible to make much headway. But, we think, “If only I try harder I can get things to change.” But that doesn’t work so well, frustration builds, and bingo: we feel stuck.

There is a way out of this mess, (one that I found myself in the other day), so I decided to share the process with you that worked for me. It is transformative.

To begin, you and I and your friends, (as well as your enemies), are all born from the same ‘fabric’, or more precisely, ‘energy’.

The Source of that energy continually flows in and through us as Goodness, Wisdom, and Peace. Only we typically forget to access it, or we block it out with lots of doing, struggling, and trying. And when we do, we get stuck in our confusion, and attempt to change outside conditions without first going back to our intuitive connection to Source for clarity, inspiration, and connection to our personal power.

Here’s a simple process that will help you make the transition back to being in alignment to Source Power. I call it “Pivoting Your Way Out of Stuck”.

Pause, or better yet, stop from what you are doing. Keeping on the same track when you are “all twisted up” will only make things stay the same, or maybe worse.

Interrupt the “stuckness” by taking a few deep breaths and some physical action to get out of your head. Like stand up, turn around; or just feel the physical sensations in your hands and feet. This will help you return to the present moment, rather than staying caught up focusing on trying to fix the past or taking the worry out of the future.

Value having your feeling, for it is a reminder that you are attracting negative energy. Give it recognition, name it, and watch it as is dissipates.

Orient yourself to the truth: you have authority over your thoughts! Take back your power (rather than keeping it on the outer circumstances), and say “I am in charge of what I choose to think!”

Thank Source (also called the Universe) for holding your power, truth, and goodness while you temporarily forgot how to manage your thoughts. (Gratitude is always a good way to help re-focus your energy anytime.)

Invoke your human “right” to seek assistance by asking for what you want. Sincerely make your request for help in whatever situation you find yourself. (When I am stuck I make my request to Source; when I am not stuck I ask for help from my friends or mentors.)

Next, give your attention back to feeling, not thinking. Focus on and feel renewed energy of goodness and harmony flowing through you. (If needed, imagine any pleasant experience to feel good.)

Gain the clarity that will enable you to go forward. For example, if it is a problem you are trying to solve, maybe first take a walk to clear your head. And when you feel better, take charge once again and start over — back in the driver’s seat!

I think it was Albert Einstein who once said “you can’t solve a problem at the level of the problem”. That’s why calling in the wisdom of Source is crucial to rise to a higher level! With Source as your Co-Creator, you have the power to change your circumstances — not by trying to change conditions, but through the power of your mind. Here’s a suggestion for helping to prevent getting stuck: remember to re-connect with Source energy throughout the day. A quick hello will suffice!

By PIVOTING your way to freedom, you will take back authority over your mind and rediscover the Power within you to create newness, joy, and possibility, anytime, anywhere. And by starting the process with only a few deep breaths, you can get back on track to creating your life the way you want it to go!

Be in Peace, knowing you have the Power to choose the way you want your life to show up!
Jim Koehneke is a transformational Business & Life Coach committed to assisting people discover their passion, overcome limiting beliefs, and be that person who lives from purpose, acts with power, and manifests their dreams. Jim has published two books, “Creating and Living Your Purpose” and “Take Charge of Your Life ─ Seven Steps for Reclaiming Your Personal Power“. To find out how you can manifest your dreams by taking charge of y​our life and overcome limiting beliefs please contact: jim@loveyourworktoday.com, call 802-857-5641, or check out www.loveyourworktoday.com.

Dr. King’s Inspiration – Greatness at Work

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As we celebrate the MLK holiday this week, I want to focus on one of King’s messages that apply to businesses and work.

     Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.- Martin Luther King, Jr. (January 15, 1929 - April 4, 1968)
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One of my favorite quotes of Dr. King is: ‘Anyone can be great because everyone can serve.’ That quote is the basis for my first book, “Path for Greatness: Work as Spiritual Service.”

Reflecting on King’s message, how are we called to be great at work? When he talks of greatness he’s not speaking of exceptional performance, heroic deeds, or extraordinary talent. King wrote that even if you are a small shrub on the side of the road, be the best little shrub you can be.

No, King is referring to the kind of greatness that comes from bringing your best self to work, day in and day out.

Any work can be spiritual when we show up as our best selves and offer our work as loving service. Are you working with integrity, compassion, understanding, kindness, respecting others, etc.?

Greatness comes when you could take the easy way out, cut corners, blame someone else for a problem, inflate an expense, or intentionally mislead someone one- but you don’t.

Greatness often requires courage. Courage to stand up for your customer, or perhaps stand up for your colleague when peer pressure or politics require otherwise.

Greatness happens when you could go along with others who aren’t doing the right thing, but instead speak your truth.

Are you showing up today with courage, compassion, understanding, kindness?

Are you respecting yourself to speak your truth? Are you respecting your customers or co-workers by listening deeply to what they need?

I describe in my book “Path for Greatness” ways to be great in the way that King meant. As you align your gifts, passion, and higher purpose in loving service, your greatness comes through.

First, you need to nurture your spiritual soil so that you stay spiritually grounded despite what goes on around you at work. By tending to your spiritual soil, you’re able to offer your gifts and passion in loving service.

If your spiritual soil, your solid ground, isn’t tended to, you’ll feel depleted or out of balance. Or worse yet, you’ll forget to bring your best self to work. You’ll act without integrity, compassion, respect for others etc.

Look for the ways you are called to be great this week.

  • Are you tending to your spiritual soil?
  • Are you bringing your best self to work?
  • Are you offering your gifts in loving service?

May you find inspiration from the words of Dr. King. No matter what work you do, your greatness can shine through.

Go be Great. The world needs you.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

Martin Luther King, Jr. (January 15, 1929 – April 4, 1968)

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Linda J. Ferguson, Ph.D. is a Job and Life Coach. Linda offers guidance and fresh perspectives to help you be successful at work and live in balance. Visit www.lindajferguson.com/coaching/ for more information.

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Separation or Connection: Creating Harmony

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The Grand Jury decisions in Ferguson MO and NY have been challenging for me. I grew up close to St. Louis so that situation struck close to home. I began reflecting on how to create harmony in our communities and work when anger and grief emerge.

I recently attended a talk by a spiritual teacher and asked about the current issue of race relations. He said the conflict and disturbances are caused by Separation, separation from others and from God. I want to expand on that idea in this post.

Separation – Us vs. Them

We experience separation when we perceive others as different – based on their gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, personality etc. This separation creates disharmony.

It is the ego, small self, personality level thinking that creates separation. It’s too easy to categorize people into Us and Them — My people (company, team, neighborhood) vs. Other.

To get past your perceptions of differences, focus instead on the Divine Nature of others. As you focus on their Divine Essence, you see them in a new way. When you focus on their Divine Nature, everything else becomes trivial.

When people around the planet get past the illusion of difference, we will know lasting peace.

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From a spiritual perspective, we are all beings of Light. The outer appearances, behaviors, and personality are merely wrapping paper.

Everyone is expressing their Divine Nature the best way they know how. And….many have forgotten their Divine Nature.

We are Divine Essence expressed in millions of different ways around the planet. No one expression of Divine Nature is better or worse than any other.

Creating Harmony

So the key to improving race relations, or any type of disharmony based on Us vs. Them thinking and perceiving, is to Remember (re-member) we are all beings of Light.

When you are pressed for time, when others don’t act as you want them to, when you don’t act as you would like to, remember this….Peace comes from remembering you and everyone else are Divine Expressions.

Reach inward to remember and feel your Divine Nature. With this connection, you’ll see others more clearly as Divine Beings expressing their Light the best way they know how.

Walk the path of Love not fear. Aho!

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Linda J. Ferguson, Ph.D. is the author of two books on spiritual living. Linda is a Job and Life Coach for people who are ready to release their doubts, fears, and self-limiting beliefs. Linda helps her clients bring greater joy and balance to their work and life.

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Gratitude and a Well-Lived Life

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Gratitude & Living Well

When I decided to write about Gratitude for this month’s blog, I wasn’t sure what angle I wanted to take with the topic.

Then I got the video link below of a childhood friend of my niece and nephew.

Clint Smith is a smart, articulate 20-something from New Orleans. Watching him speak his truth in the TED Talk he gave in NY, I got chills. I’m not surprised this video has almost 2 million views. If he’s a sign of our future, we are in good hands.

Clint’s TED Talk Video

Clint challenges us all to step up, to show up, to speak our truth to discrimination and intolerance.

>> How are you remaining silent to bigotry, environmental harm, greed or injustice where you work?

>> What will give you the courage to speak your truth?

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A Well-Lived Life

I want to juxtapose Clint’s talk with the topic of Gratitude by asking this question:

What is a well-lived life for you?

This is a question worth reflecting on as we move into Thanksgiving and other holidays.

Family and friends will gather. Many find this time renewing and joyful. It is what makes a life well lived- sharing time with loved ones and breaking bread together.

Others find this time of year very painful, hard to get through. This time of year provides fertile ground for healing, and reconciliation.

As you reflect on the many blessings in your life, the small and large ways you create a well-lived life, share some expression of your gratitude.

  • Be patient with those you love. Be kind to those in need.
  • Give the homeless man an apple.
  • Speak your truth- with love and grace.
  • Stand up for yourself and the dignity of others.

Well-Lived Life Reflections

I’ve collected various essays from articles I’ve written and put them together as an eBook called “Renew Your Heart Expand Your Soul”. It will be available in a couple weeks on my website – www.lindajferguson.com/store .

One article is titled “A Well-Lived Life” and inspired by conversations in my Ethical Leadership class. If you are interested in getting a spiral bound copy of this booklet, email me for shipping details – info@lindajferguson.com

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May your Holiday Season be filled with ways to live well.

Peace,

Linda

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New Way to Change Your Job

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There’s another way to Change your Job…

>> Struggling with finding your next job?

>> Tired of spinning your wheels applying to jobs on-line and not hearing anything from it?

>> Frustrated that you can’t get the interview, even though you are waaaaaay qualified for the job?

Allow what you Desire to Come to You

I’m a huge fan of Esther Hicks and her Abraham messages. I’ve used her ideas many times to consciously co-create.

Manifesting starts with Believing in Abundance. Knowing that there is Realm of Infinite Possibility you can tap into.

As Esther-Abraham often says, you have to turn on, tap in, and tune up to connect with the Vortex.

(The term Vortex is known by many names- God Consciousness, Source, Life Force, Energy , the Universe etc.)

Once you are powered up and connected to the Vortex, it’s simply a process of allowing what you desire to flow through you.

Saponi Spirit Guide picture The trick is in powering up- holding your thoughts, emotions and energy long enough to really tap into the Realm of Possibility– without letting your fears, doubts, worries, and judgments prevent what you desire from flowing to you.

Notice when you go after something but think contradictory thoughts like:

  • That will never happen,
  • I just don’t seem to get a break,
  • This is too hard, I’d better just forget about it
  • I’m too old for this

For help stepping through your Self-Limiting Beliefs, keeping your focus, and staying energized during your job search, consider working with a Job Coach.

And now for more on the Art of Allowing…

First and foremost, you’re not trying to find that job. You want to prepare your vibrational atmosphere so it can find you. That’s really the key. Because when you are looking for something that you can’t find, what’s your vibrational stance? I can’t find it. Which means you can’t find it because you can’t find something that’s lost and you can’t find something that you can’t find. You can’t find it. But it isn’t that you can’t find it. It is …. that you are not allowing it.

And the reason that you are not allowing it is because you can’t find it. So what you want to do is think in terms of all that you’ve done. You’ve lived life, you’ve selected carefully, you’ve put things in your vortex, you know what you want. So you can find the feeling of it even though you can’t find the specifics of it.

So when you take the time to find the feeling of it, now you are no longer preventing it from coming.

It’s like this, it’s like everything that you’ve asked for and we’re not kidding you at all about this. This is the way that it is. Everything that you’ve asked for is all queued up and the path is being given to you in the form of ideas. In the form of thoughts.

In other words, Source within you is giving you impulses, thinking about you. Thinking about what you want. Thinking about the full fruition of what you want. So there is a steady stream of path coming to you, coming to you, coming to you, coming to you. But so many of you, it’s like…you’ve got your umbrella out there like this [sideways] against the wind currents of everything that you want.

So even though it’s flowing to you, it’s flowing at you, it’s flowing to you, you’ve got your umbrella up because you are so wadded up in reality that you are not letting in the improvement, the idea.

So did you feel the new resonance in that? It’s about allowing it to flow to you, recognizing that it is flowing to you and preparing yourself, your vibrational atmosphere, your mood, your attitude so that you let in what’s flowing to you so you can be the realizer of it.

Boston 2014

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