We all know that the relationships in our lives are so important. In fact, motivational speaker Brian Tracy said that 80% of our success in life really depends on our relationships. Yet how many of our relationships are really connections with people that go deep, that matter? With all the social media outlets, we are able to connect with more people than ever before. However, most of the time these connections are brief updates on what is going on in our lives or things that we like.
What I’m talking about here are the connections that we want to foster, the network of people that is important in our life and work. One word sums up what we can do to create new and long-lasting connections that matter – GIVING.
G – Get to know each other. When you meet someone take interest first in what is important to them (i.e. their family, passions, hobbies, organizations). This is a great guide for you to know what brings them joy. You’ll also want to share the same type of things about yourself so they can get to know you.
I – Impression. You’ll always make an impression. The question is whether it’s going to be a good one or not. When we connect with someone new it’s important to be intentional about the kind of impression we want to impress upon others. Knowing yourself and being yourself is the best impression you can leave. Think of three words that best describe you. Live these words each time you connect and you won’t have to worry about the kind of impression you make.
V – Value. This is core to any relationship, especially when you are meeting important new people in your life. What is the value that you can add for them should always be at the forefront of your mind. Is it to make a personal connection/introduction for them? Is it an article that you read that they would really benefit from? Is it a volunteer opportunity to get involved in that would leverage their expertise?
I – Important. Asking questions is important; especially ones that will really help you connect with the important things in their lives. Try these out:
- What do you like to do for fun when you are not working?
- What is the most important project you are working on?
- How can I help you with that?
N – Noteworthy. Once you find out the things that matter to them, don’t forget about them. Just the other day I connected with a woman that I hadn’t seen for nearly a year and I asked about her two boys. She was impressed I remembered she had two boys. I write things down so I don’t forget the next time I see them, important dates, names, interests, etc… One of my favorite things to do is to let people know how much they matter to me through cards. My gratITude cards work great for this.
G – Give more. Never stop giving value is a surefire way you’ll keep these connections strong. Because as Cynthia Kersey said, “Giving is the most potent force on the planet and has significant impact on every area of your life.”
As your inspired life mentor, Janae Bower is passionate about helping YOU live a more balanced, purposeful and inspired life! Her writings, speaking and coaching are the spark of inspiration you need to energize you on your journey of personal transformation.